Tuesday, March 22, 2011

How to Care for Introverts

I found this list floating around the internet and it was an interesting read for me. I can relate because I consider myself an introvert. I am sure Brian is an introvert too. Some of these points sound like they’re geared towards raising kids but most of them apply to the general introvert populace. 

The title is a bit weird to me like introverts are some kind of pet or special people. It makes me think about things like “How to care for your indoor plant”. That’s just probably me. Being an introvert is perfectly normal, as being an extrovert is too. It just comes down to being aware that there are different kinds of people and respecting those differences.

The Good Kind of Clingy

Arlene and I have been together for 4 years and I enjoy doing everything with her—eating, sleeping, scratching my itchy sphincter—everything! We both do. We try our best to spend all of our free time together. Some people call couples like us “clingy”—and they say it like it's a bad thing. But we love it.

We think the word “clingy” deserves a second chance; a rebirth, in a positive light, so mutually needy people like us can describe our relationship with accuracy and pride: hell yeah we're clingy! But, you know, clingy in a good way.

What is the good kind of clingy?

  • Never wanting to be apart because being together is just too much fun.
  • Never needing space because there's always room for two.
  • Wanting to share everything, no matter how boring or trivial.
  • Feeling comfortable enough that you never need alone time, because you never feel awkward, self-conscious, or embarrassed around your partner and you never want to hide things from them.

Being clingy is not for everyone but hopefully your level of desired clinginess will match your partner's. Otherwise, problems could arise. If that happens just remember: it's no one's fault. You're just different people with different personalities.